YOU CAN COUNT ON ME…
WHAT I HOPE I REFLECT. I put this list together in January 2003. I can't remember what might have prompted the thought flow at that time. To whom was it primarily addressed? I don't recall, if anyone. Reading over it today, I made only a few updates. I think the statements reflect my heart, my mission, and my intentions. I hope they are reflected in most of my actions and life direction.
You can count on me to take you seriously…as seriously as you dare to take yourself.
You can count on me to be faithful to a friendship and covenant relationship…across time and space.
You can count on me being what I am…no pretenses or pretending or layers to cut through.
You can count on me to try to make things accessible…so much in our world is based on feigned exclusivity, dishonest rarity and fabricated difficulty.
You can count on me to hold a confidence.
You can count on me to not answer my cell phone when we are talking face to face…I try to practice a few such basic interpersonal courtesies.
You can count on me to grieve when I become aware that a vulnerable person or group is being taken advantage of or misrepresented…and to try to intervene.
You can count on me to defend my children and spouse when their feelings are hurt or when they are mistreated, disregarded, or undervalued by family, friends, or others.
You can count on me to be disgusted with you when you lie to me, withhold critical information from me, or try to manipulate me.
You can count on me to look for grace in the mundane…and to point it out like a child finding a four-leaf clover.
You can count on me to look for the best in you…and to affirm it.
You can count on me to make mistakes, errors in judgment, and occasional off-target emotionally-based assertions...I have limited knowledge, understanding and am more fragile than I'd like to admit.
You can count on me to recognize addiction and codependency…and not play into it.
You can count on me to seek truth and reconciliation…the two are inseparable.
You can count on me to be wary of large institutions…I want to know how they regard those who have, apparently, nothing to offer to their bottom line.
You can count on me to recognize sin…and not accept it being excused and rationalized, but acknowledged, forgiven, and, whenever possible, restituted.
You can count on me to try to be forgiving…I know what it means to be forgiven.
You can count on me to look beyond the surface of things…there is usually history, depth, dimension and paradoxical complexity to most appearances, whether pleasing or troubling.
You can count on me to talk about faith and politics in the same breath…though they are separate they are also inseparable.
You can count on me to love the church too much to let it easily become a reflection of the status quo, a mimic of prevailing ideologies, or a throwback to nostalgic traditions.
You can count on me to seek out and celebrate pockets and expressions of authentic community amid prevailing isolation, pseudo-community, and faux feelings of neighboring.
You can count on me to live in hope…believing that what we believe to be true about the future has more power to shape our lives than anything that has happened in the past or occurring in the present.