Friday, September 28, 2007

WALKING WITH GRIEF

BEING WITH ONE ANOTHER. Yesterday, I drove 150 miles to South Bend, Indiana to be with a member of our community of faith at the funeral of her 89-year old mother. On Tuesday, I conducted a funeral in Speedway, Indiana for an 89-year old woman who had been cared for by a member of our community for many years. Being with people in grief and speaking to folks who are grieving the loss of a loved one is a sacred privilege. May I never take it lightly or for granted.

GRIEF IN LIFE. But grief is not just what is felt at the end of life. Grief is a part of living. We have many occasions for grieving and we have the opportunity and challenge of grieving well. Recognizing the stages of grief helps us as we grapple with losses, break-ups, changes, transitions, aging, despressing times, and sending children forth, to name but a few. I found the following piece, "Walking With Grief," in Celtic Daily Prayer. It helped me and I offer it to anyone who grieves.


Do not hurry
as you walk with grief;
it does not help the journey.

Walk slowly,
pausing often.
Do not hurry
as you walk with grief.

Be not disturbed
by memories that come unbidden.
Swiftly forgive;
and let Christ speak for you
unspoken words.
Unfinished conversation
will be resolved in Him.
Be not disturbed.

Be gentle with the one
who walks with grief.
If it is you,
be gentle with yourself.
Swiftly forgive;
walk slowly,
pausing often.

Take time, be gentle
as you walk with grief.

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